Everyone, and every body is different
Sometimes it is easier said than done. Society has dictated to women from the beginning of time that there is a specific standard for beauty. Often, this standard is completely unrealistic, or worse, entirely fake altogether. However, Boudoir is meant to celebrate everyone and every body, right now. Bringing peace and serenity between your inner and outer beauty, not to entice fear and critical self-deprecation.
It's crazy to think about where I've been and how my body has changed. I recently saw a photo of myself from my 23rd Birthday. one friends and I went to Boston and Salem Massachusetts. My Birthday is November 1st so it was a fun opportunity on my spooky Birthday. I used to be so self conscious. Hyper critical and uncertain, and looking back I was so skinny. My partner now is actually not a fan. I've grown to love and appreciate my cries. I haven't weighed myself in years and focus on what I love about myself.
One of the questions asked of you upon inquiring for a Boudoir Experience for most studios is what you believe your best qualities and features are. For me it is my curves, my tattoos and my eyes. What about you?
What speaks to you?
Part of the photoshoot planning process is to find inspiration and reference material. Even shopping for lingerie can be challenging when it comes to avoiding comparisons. How do we work around falling into these traps? We utilize a pose book that has all body types, proving that you don't have to "prepare" any kind of way for your Boudoir Experience.
The role of the photographer is to guide and support you. Provide options and suggestions to help you feel your most confidence, strong and most beautiful. From hair and makeup, putting together your vision board, to what greets you when you end the home based studio and the use of specific angles and lighting to bring out your inner goddess.
Comparisons are truly useless. While someone else may have similar experiences to you, similar features or interests, no one can wear them the way you do. No one can wear them the way you do. One of the most fascinating things I've learned as a social worker and therapist is how differently we can perceive the same information and experience. What empowers one, crumbles another. What inspires someone, may completely turn off someone else. Trauma is subjective, don't let anyone minimize your experiences, your passions or challenges.
If we can't compare these things, our bodies are the same. Celebrate what you have survived, achieved and where you are today. You will never be here again. Make the most of it, you wouldn't want to regret it later.
-Samantha
